SOMEONE IS LISTENING TO YOU

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yoga woman sunsetIf you feel like no one else is listening to you, then I’m listening to you.

I can hear what’s happening in your inner world.  I can hear your desire to be seen for who you really are. I can hear your need to feel like you’re living in your own skin. I can hear you wanting to express your authentic voice and not be judged by anyone, especially the ones closest to you.

I’m listening.

Maybe that doesn’t count for much. Maybe it doesn’t mean anything to you. Maybe no one knows what you’re really going through. Words mean nothing. Especially if they come from someone who just wrote some blog post, somewhere in the world. You’re still alone.

That’s true. But I’m still listening.

I’m still allowing for the possibility that my words are landing on you, that you understand that what’s happening in your authentic emotional experience is important to me.

I’m hoping that, as you read my words, you consider that I’m speaking my truth. I can’t help but have empathy for others.  It’s been a curse, but now it’s a blessing. I’ve been hurt like no one else, but now I’m nobody’s fool. I learned to move through it. And now I’ve become a teacher. A teacher who listens.

Michael Jason Sherman standing in front of the White House while on a Solo Travel Journey

Michael Jason Sherman standing in front of the White House while on a Solo Travel Journey

I’m listening.

Whether you believe that or not.

I’m listening to how difficult it is for you to live with your partner, and how you’re afraid to live without him. I’m listening to how hard it is for you to leave, and how much harder it is for you to stay.

I’m listening to how unusual it feels now that your nest is empty and how you don’t know what to do next with your life.

I’m listening to the confusion and hurt that still lingers after your divorce. Each one of them.

I’m listening to the queasy vibrations you have about finding another partner. I’m listening to your frustration about finding the same difficult partner again and again every time you try to date.

I’m listening to you wondering why the world can’t see the natural, radiant beauty within you, the soft loving presence, the powerful wildness. You know it’s there, but now you’re starting to doubt that it will ever come out.

I’m listening to the way you found yourself in the wrong life, the wrong marriage, the wrong job. I’m listening to you ache as the voice of your life’s work remains silent.

I’m listening.  And that’s all well and good. Maybe that gives you solace and relief, maybe it doesn’t. But what I can say for sure is that I’m not the only one listening. There is someone else, someone far more important than me that is listening to you. All the time.

Your inner being. Your spirit. Your Higher Self.

You have a partner that is with you all the time, listening to you, giving you feedback about everything in your life. How do I know this? Well, what are you feeling right now? Happy and joyous? Angry and bitter? Hopeless and in despair? Whatever it is you are feeling, this partner, this inner being is listening and responding to you through your emotions.

Your emotions are a guidance system letting you know that you are never alone. Not ever.

Now here’s the thing. And what I’m about to say may throw you through a loop a little. Your Higher Self is listening to you all the time. And she communicates her guidance to you through your emotions.  How you feel is an indicator that your spirit is listening to whatever you are going through.

But she also listens in other ways. She sends things to you. People. Situations. Teachers. Tests.

She is always looking out for you. She is always providing you guidance. The question is, are you listening to the guidance. Are you tuned in enough to recognize the signals that your Higher Self is giving you.

woman looking at rainbowThis is why I want to teach you how to take a Solo Travel Journey.

Because to me, there is nothing like a Solo Travel Journey to put you in direct connection with the guidance that your inner being is offering you. Nothing.

When you leave everything behind and set forth into motion on a journey to a new land, no matter how close or how far, you will rendez-vous with the very spirit that lives in you. You will feel like you are being listened to by a presence far deeper than you’ve known in your day-to-day life. You will feel a sense of profound validation that you are not alone, in spite of the “solo” nature of this journey.

Someone is listening to you. Someone wonderful.

The real you.

If you want to experience this “listening,” I recommend you take a trip. And do it solo.

I’m hear to teach you how to do this. I’m hear to let you experience your truth.

All you have to do is leave everything behind.

And remember to keep it moving.

– Samurabbi

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Being Alone

Sometimes I get this question:

“Do you really have to go alone?”

man with two balloonsI laugh. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with the question. Yes, I am teaching people to take a Solo Travel Journey, which inherently means that they will be traveling alone. However, the prospect of doing so can be a little scary to some. Even though they already know the answer to the question, their mind cannot wrap itself around the concept.

“Why the hell would I do something as crazy as travel alone?” asks the mind, which is only there trying to protect you from the treacherous insanity that is Solo Travel.

But here’s the thing. You can’t get the juice out of a lemon unless you squeeze it. And likewise, you can’t find out what’s inside you unless you get away from what’s outside you.

Meaning, there’s more to you than your marriage, your divorce, your kids, your job, your band, your one-woman-show, your pet rock. Want to get to the bottom of your relationship issues? Then leave your relationship — temporarily — and get to the bottom of you.

And after that, come back home and move through the change that’s in front of you.

Psst…. by the way, I’ll let you in on a secret. If you do end up going a Solo Travel Journey, you’re going to discover this secret on your own. But here it is now.

No matter what —- you are never, ever, ever alone.

Ever, ever.

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HOW A SOLO TRAVEL TO JAPAN SAVED A MARRIAGE…

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…AND THE BOOK THAT BROUGHT ON THE DIVORCE.

By Michael Jason Sherman, MA

Our marriage was different. We were a classic case of the couple that would find a way to make it. We were a tribute to all that was right and honest and positive about a young, American marriage. We were chock full of the kind of hope and true grit that a marriage needed to survive.

Nothing would stop our mutual determination to heal and recover from our lost childhoods. Except ourselves.

We ripped each other’s hearts out with delirious fighting, grueling battles of dueling rivals trying to outclass the other with our need to play the role of victim, our right to always be right, and our desire to kick the other out of the sandbox of happiness.

“You’re ruining my life.”

“You’re making me insane.”

This was the typical discourse in our marriage. Dinner table, car ride, date-night, therapy office. Words were our weapons.

My wife was teetering on the cutting edge of this snarling beast of a partnership. She brutally understood the make or break nature of the moment. “I want a baby,” she said. “You’re either in this with me or you’re out.”

I could see in her eyes that she meant business. At the age of thirty-nine, her biological clock was roaring like a lion, and her frustration level was at a boiling point.

crying manShe had no more time to hear my complaints about being a middle-school teacher, my desire to be a great American writer, my anxiety and identity confusion, my anger and bitterness over my father’s schizophrenic suicide, and my queasy embarrassment about our infertility and the failure of expensive treatments to insert an embryo (or four) into her uterus. The decision about the marriage was mine to make alone.

Adopt a child with this woman or get divorced.

Frozen. Lost. Overwhelmed.

“I need to go somewhere,” I announced.

I played with the internet travel sites for days, addicted to the possibility that Solo Travel could somehow bring about an awakening that would propel me towards a solution. I needed to go somewhere far, far away—somewhere safe enough to get around, but weird enough to feel like an alien visiting another planet.

California? Too easy.

Jamaica? Too stoned.

France? Too French.

It was clear that I needed to visit a place that would spiritually immerse me in the ways of the Force—like Luke Skywalker learning from Yoda—a place that would soothe my body like the sweetest medicine and reboot my out-of-control mind by spinning it into some kind of normal and potentially grown-up orbit.

I was called to take a trip that would rescue me, a journey that would end this nightmare and restore order to the promise of marriage and the American Dream itself.daibutsu

I chose Japan.

Land of sushi, sake and samurai. Land of bullet trains, baseball turfs and Buddhist Temples. Land of Aikido, Bushido and Hello Kitty. Land of vending machines, video games and all-night Karaoke bars. The perfect place for a soul to get lost for a little pocket of time. No wife. No marriage. Bought the ticket. Took the ride.

Ten Days. Solo Travel. Man-trip.

Something happened there. Something wonderful.

I suggest you find out for yourself.

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An Extremely Serious Problem Called Marriage

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I remember having something of a Groundhog Day moment in my counseling office. I had heard this story again and again so many times from the person that happened to be sitting across from me. Different client, same story of marriage conflict. I couldn’t help but temporarily disappear into my own magical world. Luckily, my client didn’t notice.

Was it the one who said, “He’s so shut down. It’s like I’m not even there.”frustrated couple

Or the one who said, “You don’t understand how controlling she is. My marriage feels like a prison.”

Or perhaps it was this one: “And then he said, ‘I expect it from you every night. I work hard. I put food on the table. This is not what I signed up for in this marriage!’”

Honestly, I couldn’t remember.

Painful situations, no doubt. But whenever the moment happened for me, it felt like a tiny hit of enlightened wisdom that distracted my sensibilities, a presence of awe that there was something bigger happening in this counseling office.

I tried not to leap from my chair from the excitement I felt. My client’s story triggered a sense of professional compassion and basic human empathy, but more than that, it flooded me with the inspiration that hits a mad scientist like lightning.

I had figured out the formula. Eureka!

And it went like this:

The first moments of a relationship sets the tone for the rest of its existence. How it begins is how it always will be.

Whatever happens in those early text messages, Match.com emails going back and forth, late-night phone conversations, foot rubs and mixed drinks ­— the dynamic is set in stone from the beginning, growing like a virus, till death do us part.

The love is there. But the power struggle is there too. Look closely. You’ll find it.

“We had sex on the first date,” said a different client on a different day. “Then we went to Vegas and tied the knot. We decided to just go for it after three hours on the craps table and like forty margaritas. I just don’t understand why things are always so bad in our marriage now…”

Go figure.

The case above may be a more severe example, but upon reflection, the theory seemed to be taking shape, in terms of all I had witnessed as a counselor.

The trouble you are facing now was there right from the very first date.

What happens at the beginning creates a context for all that is to come.

Michael in Black Hat

Michael Jason Sherman, Creator of THE SOLO TRAVEL SOLUTION Program

A power struggle is planted in ignorance like an innocent little seed, right at the first meeting between two lovers, waiting to bear fruit years later in the marriage.

It’s not your fault. But you will have an extremely serious problem if you don’t grow conscious.

The problems of marriage are never cut and dry. But the if you can see some value in this theory, then consider the idea rooted within it: people have a tendency to get married to someone else before they are marrying themselves – or at least before getting to know their inner truth on a spiritual level.

Therefore, if they are not fully conscious in those early moments of a relationship, they are likely to be absorbed and consumed by a theme and variation of disappointments and denial, war and withdrawal, all of which started in some small (and sometimes not so small way) at the very first moment you met your sweetie.

Not that this conundrum can’t be moved through and mastered. In fact, if you become conscious to the core energies that were present in the initial moments of your relationship, you can look at this condition as a puzzle filling with mysteries that move your life forward into a spiritual awakening, whether the marriage comes with you or not. In this way, the marriage is giving birth to the real you.

However, if you don’t get conscious, if you don’t notice how the core issues of your relationship were there right from the very beginning, then that lack of consciousness will take root and leave you with an extremely serious problem.

Otherwise known as being trapped in a power struggle called marriage.

So, what’s next? Counseling? Sure. Divorce? Maybe. But what is my personal prescription?

plane and sunsetA Solo Travel Journey. A pocket of time where you temporarily leave everything in your life behind (including your marriage). An adventure where you set forth into motion, awakening to the wisdom that is waiting for you on the road. A feeling of aliveness that will allow you to meet up with the being you have always been, that perhaps your marriage has not allowed you to be.

A breakaway that guarantees a breakthrough. A voyage of personal discovery that enlivens your spirit and brings you back to your essence. A trip that cleans the palette of your mind, refreshes your body and resets your soul, allowing you the inner peace and personal power to return to a new relationship with the same partner.

When you return, you may feel a deeper level of acceptance. Or you may initiate profound change in the dynamics of your marriage. It also may mean that you are finally ready to move on.

Only you will know.  But the answers about you, your relationships and your life direction are waiting for you out there on the journey. They will meet you along the way, in a meaningful meditation of motion.

Always remember to keep it moving….

– Michael Jason Sherman / 10-14-13

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